Big Mama Said: Come Correct or Don’t Come at All

By Terry Allen

In our family, Lucille “Big Mama” Allen was a pillar of wisdom. When she said, “Come correct or don’t come at all,” it was more than a phrase; it was a guide to living with authenticity, respect, and integrity. According to the Urban Dictionary, “Come correct” means speaking to people respectfully, truthfully, and without exaggeration. It’s a reminder to present ourselves as we are, allowing others to do the same to prevent unnecessary conflict and mistrust. Big Mama believed that when we “come correct,” we lay the foundation for a more honest, compassionate world.

In reflecting on the recent presidential election, Big Mama’s words echo even louder. As Americans, we need to avoid oversimplifying the outcomes by focusing on easy, short-term answers. Instead, we should pivot our attention to the real issues that lie beneath the results, ensuring that democracy remains intact and protected for generations to come.

Political philosopher Christopher Robichaud recently shared his thoughts on the election, challenging many misconceptions about its outcome. The problem isn’t the Electoral College, he wrote. It’s not that we didn’t have a full primary or that the Democrats didn’t have the right message. The problem isn’t inflation or the border. Robichaud’s reflections invite us to dig deeper and acknowledge that the forces at play are not always as obvious as they seem. He argues that the real issue on the ballot wasn’t democracy but rather White privilege. This privilege influences our institutions, societal narratives, and voter behaviors, often more powerfully than policies or campaigns.

Vice President Kamala Harris ran an exceptional campaign, embodying grace, intelligence, and resilience. Yet, even her efforts were up against the embedded privilege that continues to challenge our country’s ideals of equality and fairness. We must “come correct” by facing this privilege honestly and working to prevent it from undermining the growth of American democracy.

Big Mama taught us that real change starts with truth. So I ask each of you reading: how will you “come correct” to address the complexities of today’s challenges? Share your thoughts with me at the paper. Together, let’s ensure we’re moving forward with clarity, courage, and commitment

Terry Allen is an NABJ award winning Journalist, DEI expert, PR professional, and founder of the charity – Vice President at FocusPR, Founder of City Men Cook, and Dallas Chapter President of NBPRS.org